Dating no nos
The fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why…you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.
Understanding each other is the basis of connection.
Instead, you’re focusing on how YOU feel about it and that YOU don’t like it. You can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture…
and maybe learn something valuable about your guy in the process (maybe some need that he still needs met).
There are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well.
There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.
Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.